So you're diagnosed with Cancer..... first of all HOLY SHIT. I know it is a lot to take in,I mean CANCER has to be one of the scariest words you can hear and no none wants to hear it but it happens so often these days.
You're driving home from the scariest doctors appointment of your life and it hits, how am i going to get through this?
The answer to that is SUPPORT! I know it sounds so small and it can be but having a support system behind you when you are going through something like a cancer diagnosis is pretty important whether you believe it or not.
For me, my family was, is and remains my biggest support system.
- Process your own feelings beforehand. Learning that a friend/family member has cancer can be difficult news to hear. Take time to acknowledge and cope with your own emotions about the diagnosis before you see him or her. This way, you can keep the focus on your friend.
- Learn about the diagnosis. Your friend may not want to talk about the details for many reasons. It can be physically and emotionally tiring to repeat the same information to different people. If possible, the person’s spouse or a mutual friend may be able to give you the basics. Write it down and repeat it back to them to be sure you have the correct information. If there is information that is unknown or not shared, do not push for more.
- Think about it from your friend’s perspective. Remember a time when you were scared or felt sick. Think about what it felt like. What did you want to talk about? How did you want to be treated? You may also want to prepare yourself for changes in your friend’s appearance. Fatigue, weight loss, and hair loss are common side effects of cancer and many treatments. Start your visit by saying “It’s good to see you” instead of commenting on any physical changes